I think I’ve mentioned before that Dude #3 is very in touch with his feminine side.
That’s the PC way of saying that sometimes he really just wants to be a girl.
And, I don’t mean he carries my purse around while he wears my heels (he does that stuff too). But, I mean he really, really, really wants to be a girl.
He asks me to buy him dresses. Or “pitty princess” shoes. Or fix his hair like a girl and paint his nails and give him “wipstick” for his “wips”. Glittery, pink wipstick.
And, he wants to have a “pincess-girl” name and “be a girl wif no pee-pee” when he grows up.
Let me just put this out there right now: I’m totally cool with this.
Not because I want him to be a girl (okay, I did want him to be a girl, but only before he actually was born), but for obvious reasons that I’m going to just quickly put down here in case they aren’t super obvious to you (or you are Dumb Dad who loses his mind every time the kid asks to wear a tutu):
- He’s 3. Only just barely turned, so the whole I-have-a-pee-pee-why-don’t-you bit is still extremely fascinating for him. Just like “super wong wike daddy” underarm hair which he swears he will never get.
- He is a boy. He mostly always likes being a boy and will tell you he’s a boy like 88% of the time. Sometimes he just gets jealous of the glittery pink girl stuff that we don’t have in abundance at Casa de Dummies. His I-wanna-be-a-girl sentiments are usually strongest after we’ve played at one of our girl friend’s houses. Or on Tuesday mornings when he watches Olivia.
- I don’t care. Really. If my kid grows up to be a cross dressing tranny what am I even gonna do about it? Disown him? Not a chance. I don’t want him to grow up and be a cross dressing tranny. As much as I enjoy the company of cross dressing trannies (seriously, they are SO much fun), I don’t want my kids to have any sort of nontraditional lifestyle that will garner them negative attention from various factions of American society. Not because I’m not okay with it, just because I don’t want them to be tormented or ostracized for any reason. It’s painful to experience and painful to watch and I don’t want that for them. But, if he’s gonna be a cross dressing tranny, then he just is and this mama is gonna love her baby even if his bajongas are bigger and better than mine.
So there.
Knowing all of this, it’s crazy to hear then that when Feld Entertainment, the producers of Disney on Ice Princess Wishes, contacted me about going to check out their show in Baltimore a couple of weeks ago, I initially declined.
I was just thinking of the older Dudes who would not be caught smiling at an ice skating show with the word princess in the title, while forgetting about my sometimes princess-boy who is a cr0ss dressing sympathizer…
And then I remembered.
How he LOVES Ariel. And, Snow White. And, Fiona (who’s not Disney but still a princess in all of her funky green glory).
And I decided to dress him up in his nicest PRINCE inspired outfit (it was a button up shirt and dress shoes after I wrangled him out of his snow boots and tutu) and headed out to the show.
I’m just so glad we went!
It wasn’t overly princess-y (even though in the pre-party princess meet and greet #3 was the only male child in attendance until some late stragglers showed up with their two sons) unless you count the multitude of princess dresses in the audience.
It was entertaining and fun. The set was creative and beautiful and I got a good laugh when Ariel busted her rump on the ice.
And, the Dude loved it!
Plus, you really can’t have a princess without a prince so there were plenty of elements any everyday boy would enjoy: Aladdin and his lamp, Beast and his, um, beastiness, Ariel and her Sebastian, dragon slaying princes, funny faced dwarves, evil villains all of that stuff to keep your little prince or princess entertained.
And, when we got home he climbed into bed with his Mickey crown and his program from the show and he proceeded to carry the two items around for the next four days straight, wearing the crown while flipping through the program book reminiscing by questioning me incessantly about the experience.
So, I’m glad we went, even if he does decide to play burlesque Cinderella in a dive bar in West Virginia when he’s 25 it was totally worth it!
Want to catch the show in your hometown?
See if it’s coming here: Disney on Ice Princess Wishes schedule.
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He looks REALLY pretty! He does.
My daughter would SO love to watch anything with the Disney princesses.
They are a lot of fun! ;P So glad you took him to the show and that you are so accepting of it all. All part of your awesome.
I agree with all of your reasons…well put!
That princess picture might come back to haunt him later but I think it is awesome. My four year old son loves Aerial too and was so excited to get a purple heart ring off a cupcake from a school birthday party. I just smiled and said I thought it was a great ring too!
You are such an awesome mom!
You are such a great mom! How awesome that you one not only feel the way you do about this, but two put it out there. He does make a pretty beautiful ballerina! Glad you had fun!
You are a very “smart” mom Dumb Mom.
I tip my hat to this post.
Dana
I’m really glad that moms like you exist in the world. Seriously. Thank you for this post. xo
Oh that’s too cute! And pretty much all of my friends who have boys have said the same thing – that they’ve gone through that stage where they love everything pink and sparkly.
I’d love to take my girls to this, but the older two have outgrown princesses already, even at 8 and 10. My 5-year-old would be totally into it though.
I have a 4 year old great-nephew who is exactly the same way. Fortunately, his Mom is cool about it too, but it is heart-breaking to see what a hard time the other neighborhood kids are giving him. Kids can be so rotten!
LOL..oh my gosh..he would make such a pretty girl!!!!!
I got really confused when I read “Dumb Dad” and “super wong” in the same sentence. So I reread it. And reread it again. And yeah. Now I’ve got it. *snaps fingers, shoots cute finger gun at you with accompanying ‘tsk’ and wink*
Me, too! My eyes nearly popped out of my head.
He’s such a beautiful child in pink or not.
I miss the days when my little boy wanted to be Dora when he grew up and loved having his nails painted and fighting with the other little boys at daycare over who got to dress up as Snow White.
Your princess boy is too dang cute in his crown with his curls — he’s born for royalty (whether it comes from Ms Drag America or not)!
He is one lucky fella to have such a wonderful mom like yourself. KUDOS to you!
He looks great !!!
ahhhh…he’s so pretty
I love every single thing about this post. Your feelings about your son’s possible potential cross-dressing are identical to mine.
Andrew used to have a very strong girly side. He has mostly outgrown it. But when he was younger he would steal my girls’ makeup and hair stuff and get all prettied up. We used to joke that he’d be a cross-dressing klepto, and imagine that in his mug shot he’d be dressed in drag. Just proof of our stellar parenting.
Anyhoo….I’m so glad he enjoyed himself and that you are such an awesome mom to take him.
No One rocks a TuTu like he does!
you’re a super cool mom!
Like everyone else said- you rock. Enough said.
For a moment I thought you had a really pretty girl..
Happy WW
Oh my gosh!! My 4 yr old son is the same way! I was just telling my sister earlier that I really hoped he wasnt gay. Not that I would have anything against it – I just want his life to be easy and torment free. But anyways – he’s always asking for pink clothes and girl shoes. We even gave him a Dora birthday party because he loves her so much. He’s always trying to wear my makeup, and if I paint my toes then he wants his done too! I think our boys would have lovely tea parties together… lol
He can work the tutu, but oh my he makes and handsome Prince Charming, too!
So that should have said “a handsome Prince Charming.” It is too early!!!
I agree with everyone!! You’re one cool mom!!
Happy WW
My three year old is the EXACT same way, he is always in his sister’s dress up clothes but my husband would probably be filing for divorce if I posted the pictures on the blog. He makes such a cute princess though, just like your little guy.
You are definitely a smart mom on this one.
My youngest keeps saying she’s a boy. Okay, whatever. You are two, so if you think you are a boy, fine by me!
He looks cute and handsome in both outfits..they are just clothes.
(And, I totally get the being okay, but wanting him to be within social norms so he isn’t ostracized or has a hard life.)
The way you tell a story is priceless. There are so many families that won’t let their boys play with dolls or dress up. I love that you do! I would too
Have a great Wednesday!
I love this! I’m so glad we had a daughter first because my little guy LOVES all of her girly clothes and accessories. I just wouldn’t have thought to have that stuff around unless it just WAS around.
Way to go Momma!
Girl you are such a cool mom!
I’d be lying if i said Evan hasn’t ever shaken it around the house in a tutu.
That is WAY too funny and adorable!
Both my boys, although usually “all boy”, have always had a fascination with nail polish and when my youngest was 4, he insisted on a Dora the Explorer birthday cake.
Love that tutu!
He’s such a handsome princess.
Are you there? Are you still breathing? Just hang on while I call 911?
and have secretly wanted to do the same..shhhhh)
Cause if your husband is anything like mine…you’ve been shot for dressing his son like a pansy. ( I think he looks sweet
Just watch – he’ll grow up to be quite the ladies man. Women will LOVE that he’s in touch with his feminine side. I’m just sayin’. And maybe we should get him and Princess Nagger together – she could bring out his masculine side with all her dinosaurs and sword fights, and he could bring out her pretty pink princess side.
Cute! My little man loves princesses too. He also always wants to be the mommy when he plays house.
Now see, here’s the thing…I think the Ranger would like one of his girls to act like a boy sometimes. You go, Dude #3!
So well said! My almost 3 yr old also digs his sister’s dress up shoes and wants nail polish if they have it.
I think its great. And at 3 they don’t really know the difference between girl stuff and boy stuff anyway. Besides, the girly stuff is sparkly and pretty and does have a special appeal that would pull any 3 year old in.
How cute! I’m glad he enjoyed the show!
My son went through the I-wanna-be-a-girl phase, too. Having an older sister, I think he just wanted to be like her. The husband HATED it, but I thought it was cute!
Well he will… would make a really pretty tranny if that’s what he decides. Again, not that there’s anything wrong with that.
My son loved Disney on Ice when we went last year. He had a great time.
Ahhhhh, a little dude in a tutu… Every dad’s dream!! Haha! Glad you guys had fun!
Love!
Is it wrong that I think he’s really pretty as a girl?
ps My son Teddy wanted to be a “pwetty pwincess” for the LONGEST time. I let him wear my dauhters’ dress-up clothes when he wanted, he carried a purse and a babydoll and today…. he’s my son that makes a gun out of EVERYTHING and wants to be a soldier.
That picture of him in a tutu made me laugh!
p.s. My hubby wouldn’t be really cool with my boys dressing up in a tutu either.
Your dude is gorgeous! And adorable! And so are you, the coolest mama!
Your little guy is so lucky to have a mama who allows him to just be himself — tutu and all!
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